“Water your grief with your tears and wait for the fire to slow and shrink.”
Last week was the one year anniversary of my beloved cat Billy’s passing. It was a complex day – I missed Billy yet I was glad that he was rid of his earth body and the disease that had riddled it. I felt like talking about it, I didn’t feel like talking about it. When I did feel like talking about it, I couldn’t think of a person that was the Goldylocks version of *just right* that I felt like talking to. A day of vacillation and a day of (mostly welcomed) silence and solitude.
Part of my reticence in reaching out to people was I didn’t want anyone to try and ‘fix’ my grief or try to make me feel better. I didn’t want anyone to try to make me forget the pain I experienced that final day when I came home from the vet’s office without Billy. If I was going to risk reaching out to people, I wanted to be assured the folks I reached out to would ‘get’ it – would understand what it’s like to grieve the loss of an animal family member.
No, I’m not a martyr, believe me. The way I chose to spend that day (and I truly believe Billy had a paw in orchestrating it) allowed me to honor Billy fully in my grief.
Have you felt like this? If so, I encourage you to register for the upcoming pet grief workshop “Where Grief Meets Love”. The one thing about grief, you may choose to be by yourself, but being by yourself is not a prerequisite to grieving.
Grieving is meant to be done in a trusted community, with people who have experienced and ‘get’ pet grief.
THIS WORKSHOP IS FOR YOU IF:
- You’ve been grieving the loss of an animal
- You’ve been looking for a safe place to express the grief you are experiencing
- You would like to have your grief witnessed by others who ‘get’ it
- You have been looking for like-minded people in a nonjudgmental environment who understand pet grief
- You’re looking for a different way to work with your grief
I’ll be sharing the methods and techniques that have been successful for me in befriending my grief, with the intent they will give you a way for meeting and working with your own grief. There will also be time for sharing and conversation.
The workshop will be held Wednesday, March 14 at 10AM MOUNTAIN and repeated on Thursday, March 22 at 7PM MOUNTAIN. Registration for the March 22nd workshop will open March 15.
If you know of someone who is grieving the loss of an animal pal, please consider sharing this workshop with them. Who knows – you might be handing them a lifeline.
Together let’s connect, support each other and help each other discover some touchstones of ‘good grief’ in our lives.
Here’s To New Beginnings,