Life Lessons From A Fly

common house fly on leaf

Ah jeez, true confessions here.

I know as an animal communicator I’m supposed to be in perfect harmony with all creatures great and small. I truly want to be; it makes the world a better place and it only makes sense to be in right relationship with those sentient beings with whom we share our Earth home.

I’m fine with snakes, spiders and bats; and I’m really looking forward to getting to know the animals that are great, like the bison, better.

It’s those small creatures that do me in. The wise teacher and author Ted Andrews referred to them as shapeshifters. I’m not that evolved yet, I call them the creepy crawlies, and by that I mean bugs, insects, caterpillars and worms.

The Fear Begins

I can pin point the exact moment in my life when I became afraid of these little creatures. I was about 5 years old, my mom and dad were in the house and I was playing in the front yard. A caterpillar fell off a branch of the tree and fell down my back. I could feel him crawling around and I couldn’t remove him. I began screaming, and it took my mom forever to get there. (I’m sure it didn’t, it just seemed that way.) By the time she arrived, I was a hysterical puddle on the ground.

It didn’t help matters when I was unwrapping a Tootsie Pop and a cockroach leaped out.

To this day I abhor the feeling of a bug traveling across my skin. My knee jerk reaction is to immediately shake it off or swat it off, to get it away from me.

Learning To Overcome My Aversion

It’s time to put my big girl pants on and consciously do something about this unreasonable aversion. I’m developing a plan of action to do just that.

This weekend I visited the Missoula Insectarium with a couple of friends. The purpose of the visit was to watch Rosie the chilean rose hair tarantula being fed; little did I know the room would be filled with displays of live insects from the world over. People were able to hold some of the insects, under the supervision of the insect’s human caretaker. I wasn’t able to do that, but I was able to not freak out.

As always, when I want to learn more about a subject, I turn to books. It’s time for me to reread The Voice of the Infinite in the Small: Re-Visioning the Insect-Human Connection by Joanne E. Lauck. The book talks about us humans reinventing ourselves as a non-hostile species and entering the world of empathy and compassion with insects. It’s not necessary to either kill them or be defeated by them.

And when I am confused, I am wise enough to know to ask my students for help.

Flies In The Kitchen

Recently there have been a couple of flies in my kitchen. Flies epitomize everything I dislike about insects, making me completely irrational and angry when they are around. I opened the door to swoosh them out the other day, and instead, more came in!

The other night at a class I asked the students for their help with the flies. I asked them to connect with the flies, see if the flies had a message for me, and what they needed from me so they would leave. The goal of this exercise, at least from my perspective, was sweet relief from the flies.

The students connected and they all received essentially the same message. The flies like my kitchen and they have a message for me: I need to pay attention to what I’m overlooking, something fairly obvious. The flies then buzzed away from the students. End of message.

The students did a great job connecting with the flies, hearing them and relaying the messages to me. I just didn’t know what to make of it.

As can frequently happen in animal communication, the messages became clearer at a later time. The message was in the back of my mind, and the next day I had an ‘aha’ moment about the message – I saw the connection and it started to make more sense to me. The flies are still here, so chances are I haven’t received the entire message yet or I haven’t put it entirely into action, but progress is being made, and that’s what counts. Thank you Flies!

Then I ran across a conversation I had a few years ago with a fly.

Life Lessons From Prinz, A Small Fly

JR: Little Fly, thank you for catching my attention. Do you have anything to say about how humans listen to flies?
Fly: Yes, I do. That’s why I grabbed your attention. People don’t listen to us flies, because they usually don’t notice us, or if they notice us, it is just to kill us, because they think we are dirty, or an annoyance.
JR: That doesn’t promote good conversation, does it? If someone had the intent to kill you, would you be willing to have a conversation?
Fly: It is time for you humans to listen to what we creatures have to say. We have much to teach you.
But first, in order to listen, you must come with a cheerful attitude, an attitude that is composed of respect and reverence for Life.
It is only when you change your attitude from superiority to rest – respect – that you will be able to listen to what we truly have to say.
And listening is so much more than just sitting and being quiet – you need to hear what we have to say.
That again, comes back to respect. In order to hear what is being said, truly hear, you humans need to be present to us and to respect the Life Form that we are and the part we place in the Circle of Life. For the Circle of Life would not be complete if we were not present and doing our part to balance Life.
Even now, even though you are trying, you are not truly listening to me. What do you have to do that is so much more important than listening and learning from a fellow creature?
You are distracted by all the artificial noise you humans have created – sounds of cars, motorcycles, the ringing of phones. Do they take more precedence over a conversation with a living creature?
When I land on you, don’t I have your full attention? I must have your attention since you want to kill me!
Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we all truly listened to each other and respected not only the other Life Forms, but the wisdom of each and every one of those Life Forms?
For it is each one of us Life Forms that goes into making the Energy Force of Life. One is not superior to the other, simply different. And it is in that difference where the beauty of the Circle of Life is truly illuminated and can enlighten others in the Circle of Life.
Bring respect, the respect that you want all to show you, bring that respect to each creature with whom you come in contact, and you will be surprised at how the Circle of Life begins to grow and strengthen with a new heart beat, and a heart beat that is rooted in respect for all creatures.
JR: Thank you, Fly. thank you for sharing your wisdom with me.
Fly: You are welcome. I appreciate your willingness to tackle this subject and spread our ideas and thoughts and wisdom. It is a job that needs to be done, it is time for it to be done. I will come back to check on you from time to time to see how it’s going.
You can call me Prinz.

Prinz was a very wise fly. I am thankful he took the time to chat with me then, and I’m grateful I just happened to run across this conversation again, at this specific point in time.

If you are interested in learning to communicate with the animals, including insects, contact me for more information.

Here’s To New Beginnings,



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